Maruf Zaid Deen
Our parents are the two most important people in the world for us. They have given us everything, and have helped shape us into the people that we are today. They genuinely care about our health and well-being, and they have done everything under the sun for us, yet they have never asked for anything in return.
The status of our parents is high in Islam and this is precisely why our faith places great importance to our parents and family.
“Allah has ordained for you, that you worship none but Him, and to be kind to our parents And if any one or both of them reach old age do not say a word of contempt or repel them but address them with honour, and speak to them with kindness, and lower your wing of humility and pray to Allah – ‘My Lord, bless them as they have cherished me in childhood.” (Surah Isra 17:28-29)
Below are some practical ways to let our parents know what they mean to us, and how much we care:
1. Tell them that you love them
Be open and honest with your parents and tell them how you feel. Simply saying “I love and appreciate you” is the ultimate way to express your appreciation for them. Letting your parents know you are grateful for the impact they’ve had in your life will make their day.
2. Pray for them and make daily du’a for them
Always strive to pray for your parents and regularly make du’a for them. One du’a that we can make is Rabbir hamhuma kama rabbayanee sagheera – (My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was small).
3. Help around the house
Regardless of whether you live with them or not, go and help them around the house. You can do the laundry, iron their clothes or even make them lunch. This will surely help them a great deal and make a big difference.
4. Spend time together
Giving time to our parents is something that we should all do irrespective of how busy we may be. They deserve it and it is actually for our own good. Make time for your parents and spend quality time together.
5. Ask them for advice
Parents have so many life experiences that we can learn from. They know so much about us as they brought us up from childhood so utilise their invaluable advice.
6. Be patient with them when they are old
They were patient with you every time you had tantrums when you were a toddler and when you were a stubborn teenager. Now, it is your turn to widen your understanding towards them. Being patient with them cannot be stressed enough. They deserve it!
7. Involve them in your life and serve them
By doing this we will be able to keep our parents active and it will give them a new lease of life. Plus they will be happy! You can never repay them for their sacrifices for you, but at least you can show your gratitude through this.
8. Call them regularly
Doing this will make our parents feel appreciated and respected. They will feel valued and will likely to be happier and relaxed in life. Call them, it doesn’t take long and its quick and easy.
9. Focus your full attention on them when they are around.
Every time you are with your parents, avoid texting, checking your Facebook, or playing games on your phone. Make the most of your time with them by chatting with them and listening attentively.
10. Give charity on their behalf
There are so many rewards in offering charity so do this for them. Charity is a great blessing so do this as consistently as you can!
I pray to Allah that we can do our best to respect our parents, honour them, be kind to them, assist them, and please them so that we may attain the love of Allah. May Allah’s peace and mercy be upon our beloved parents. Allahumma Ameen 🙂
By Maruf Zaid Deen
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